How To Help Those Who Don’t Want Help?

You can help people who don’t want help with addictions. There are actions we can take that have been proven by experience to be the most appropriate.

1. Stay calm
If a person close to you has a problem with alcohol or drug addiction, on principle we must accept reality and recognize that this person really has a problem and that it is an illness that he is suffering from.

Stay calm. Feeling anger, fear, shame, or running away from that reality does nothing to help solve the problem. It’s better to stay calm and use all the understanding, love and solidarity we can muster.

2. Seek Professional Help
Because we are not professionals, it is very difficult for us to make an objective assessment of the problem on our own. We need to know as much as possible about the effects of alcoholism or drug addiction, as well as its damages and consequences both on the person who suffers the problem and on his or her relatives and close people. For this reason, the next step is to seek information and professional guidance from an addiction specialist or a reliable treatment centre.

Only with professional help can we face the problem positively and see the best options for effective treatment.

3. Use The Intervention Technique
In people who deny their reality, the intervention technique has proven to be very effective. To intervene means to INTERRUPT the mechanism of denial (excuses and alibis) which the person with addictive problems uses in order not to abandon his addiction. Through trained specialists and professionals, we can prepare and achieve an INTERVENTION that undoes the mechanism of self-deception and denial.

The intervention must be made by the closest and dearest relatives of the addict and the key to its success is in the way we lovingly confront our loved one.

Together with the specialist you can say:

  • When, how and where to perform the intervention.
  • Who should act.
  • Which are the best techniques to motivate the addict person to enter a treatment.
  • The possibility of an intervention “trial” directed by the specialist and with the collaboration of the relatives so that they train the technique.
  • Here you can support another recovering addict of the same age and sex as the person to whom the intervention will be made.
  • The support options that can be used, such as the presence of a doctor, the invitation to an evaluation of the addict in a treatment center, or to get to know the facilities of the center, etc.
  • It is important that you act immediately, do not wait for the loved one to “hit bottom” so that the disease does not advance. Also, look for self-help groups for family members such as Al-Anon or Families Anonymous, as
  • inappropriate addict or alcoholic problems and relationships are invariably reflected throughout the family.

Lorge The Intervention
All the above actions are aimed at achieving a single goal: that the person with addictions undergo treatment for their addiction. Only in this way will he or she be on the road to recovery.


  • Do not argue or try to convince her that she does have a problem.
  • To interrogate it in a directed way so that the sick person accepts and raises his problem.
  • Seek the WHAT and HOW of your problem and not the WHY.
  • Analyze together with the person, each part of the problem separately
  • Once the sick person raises his or her problem, it helps to explore it together and see its consequences.


  • Taking responsibility for the addict
  • Cover it up and protect it
  • Controlling and hiding money, credit cards or checkbooks
  • Trying to control, hide, or throw away alcohol or drugs
  • Making constant demands on the addict to stop drinking or using drugs
  • Feeling hurt, depressed, lonely, angry, frustrated, or guilty
  • Trust that the problem will go away over time

How to Help Those Who Don’t Want Help

The problem of addictions, whether to alcohol or drugs, occurs in men and women; adults, young people and even children, in all occupations and professions and at all cultural, economic and social levels.

In many occasions there are people who unfortunately have a problem of addiction and that by the very nature of their illness do not accept or seek for themselves the help they so much need.

This information helps you to know what to do and how to react positively in these cases. Remember that our help is always valuable and often crucial to saving a life.